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Concern: Erectile Dysfunction
“It took me a week to build up the courage to text James the first time. I felt ashamed for not being able to keep an erection and I didn’t know how I would survive telling that to another man.
The medications my doctor prescribed me weren’t helping. I decided that I had to do something because the idea of living like this forever was much worst than whatever shame I had to live through in treatment. I was literally shaking when I called but after we chatted for a while I felt like I was safe and respected.
He listened carefully to everything I had to say and in the end said “We WILL fix this together”. His confidence and reassurance helped a great deal to relax me.
I’ve never had such thorough care before. He didn’t make any assumptions. He took a full medical and personal history and arranged for me to get the tests I needed to rule any medical problems out. He helped me to understand that even if a medical issue was the cause, psychological damage happens as a result and needs to be worked on alongside any medical issues.
In my case I didn’t have any medical causes and over the 15 sessions we had together he helped me to get my confidence (and erections) back. I’m no longer single and my sex life has never been this great! I can’t recommend James highly enough.”
Peter, Bournemouth, UK
Concern: Porn Addiction
“I was extremely nervous when I contacted James. It was very embarrassing to explain that I had a problem with porn addiction and that my relationship with my partner was on the rocks because of it.
James immediately set my mind at ease. His voice and manner immediately welcomed and calmed me. I didn’t feel judged at all and learned that my problem was actually far more common than I realised.
His approach is very practical. I had 14 sessions in total and all of them contained practical tasks that I had to complete or think about before the next session.
By the end of my sessions I was back in control of my life again and I felt free for the first time in years.
Now that I’m ready, we’re seeing James for couples therapy and things are going REALLY well. We haven’t been this happy since we met and this time we know how to make it last.”
G & S, Wandsworth, UK
Concern: Differences in Desire
“Before Adam and I reached out to James, we were headed straight for divorce. We’d been married for 7 years and things were going great… until recently.
Adam and I both had very active libidos. But recently his began fading. He often felt depressed for seemingly no reason. We hardly ever made love anymore and every tiny trigger turned into an argument.
I was feeling anxious all the time and my sexual frustration was unbearable. We love each other very much. But the more I felt like he was avoiding me the more he felt pushed and pressured.
I eventually began thinking that it was me that he’d lost interest in. I ended up questioning myself and feeling unattractive all the time. We tried seeing another sex therapist but that didn’t work out. We also tried a couples therapist but we ended up arguing even more.
It turns out that we needed someone who had experience of working with anxiety, depression and self esteem, together with being an experienced sex AND couples therapist.
James’ knowledge, wisdom, and calm has helped us to avoid breaking up the most beautiful thing that ever happened to us. The result is a relationship where we not only have red hot sex but also truly understand each other and care for each other’s needs for the first time.”
Lisa & Adam, Kent, UK
Concern: Jealousy
“After 5 great years as partners, Charlie and I confessed that we both fantasised about having sex outside of our relationship.
We started dating in school and neither of us had any experience with anyone else up to that point. Our relationship was great, but we realised that we wanted to experience other people and what being with them would be like. The plan was to become more open to the idea of threesomes and to keep things just to sex.
What we didn’t bargain for was the amount of jealousy that we both felt at seeing someone else being ravished by our partner. We knew that we didn’t want to have sex with them alone and that we both wanted to feel the joys of a (slightly) open relationship, but we had no idea how to get past the jealousy. We both read several books on the topic and although some did help, nothing quite hit the mark.
We decided to contact James after a friend recommended him and we’re really glad that we did! There have been a lot of stuff that we needed to work through and a lot of things that we needed to figure out alone and together, but James helped us through and made sure that we always stayed close to each other.
We learned that jealousy will always be something that we need to deal with, but the difference is that we now know HOW and what to do when it strikes. We have never communicated this well and we are more in love than ever before.
We play together and sometimes with others and we’ve even learned how to turn feeling a little jealous sometimes into feeling a lot turned on. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”
Charlie & Dane, Manchester, UK
Concern: Sexual Orientation
“I used to tell myself that the feelings I had towards other guys had nothing to do with attraction and was more because of how they looked. I thought that I was comparing my body with theirs. But that didn’t really explain the magazines I’d buy or the websites that I’d browse ‘on accident’.
There was a short time in my teens when I thought I might be bisexual but I didn’t have anybody to talk to and I was sure my parents would throw me out if they ever found out. I’ve since repressed it and told myself it was just a phase.
I’m 28 now and even though my best friends have always been girls, I’ve never been able to stay in a relationship with one for longer than a month. The only time I had sex went very wrong and I thought that I was just doomed and bad in bed.
On the outside my life was great. I have a good job and great career prospects, lots of friends, and I’m physically healthy. Inside I felt empty and like I was living a lie. I found LSHP online.
I was so ashamed and scared of seeing someone, but it really helped a lot to be able to have the therapy online. I’m still working through a lot of pain from the past, but the last 3 months in therapy have been a godsend. He has helped me so much. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m gay and only just realised that I’ve actually been homophobic towards myself all this time.
James wasn’t pushy at all. His questions and advice always meant that I was in control and free to make up my own mind. That’s just the thing – I realised for the first time that it wasn’t about choosing to be a certain way but that this whole time I was trying to choose to be someone I’m not!
I’ve since come out to my parents and friends and through everyone’s acceptance have also begun learning to accept myself.
If you need someone to help you through issues who really actively listens and who can actually help, contact him. I’m finally beginning to feel proud of who I am and I’m beginning to feel like my life has purpose and depth for the first time.”
Jason, Bath, UK
Concern: Couples Counselling
“I think of myself as a very private person. I’ve always found it difficult to share my emotions with anyone except my wife, but because of how we’ve drifted apart, I’ve been left feeling alone and isolated.
Thank you so much for seeing us as a couple. In the beginning we both thought that our relationship was pretty much over and we figured that couples counselling would pretty much be a last ditch effort. How wrong (thankfully!!) we both were.
Thanks to your help we’re now best friends and lovers again. We’ve rediscovered our love and we’ve rededicated ourselves. The skills you taught us for communication and stating our needs were especially helpful.
We both feel like we have our lives back again.
We can never thank you enough James.”
Deb & Roman, Liverpool, UK
Concern: Premature Ejaculation
“I had become depressed and frustrated by sex. After suffering from Premature Ejaculation for many years, I finally decided that I needed help and to get treatment. A close friend told me about James and after my first telephone chat, I knew it was worth a try.
James helped me to understand the nature and causes of the problem, and I learned the correct techniques to address them. He also referred me to a fantastic doctor who helped me to make sure that nothing was wrong physically.
The treatment plan worked wonderfully and I have gained confidence and reduced my anxiety. My sex life is excellent and my relationship with my other half has never been better!”
Alex, Essex, UK
Concern: Anorgasmia / Difficulty Orgasming
“I’ve always struggled having orgasms since I began masturbating. I’d listen to all my girlfriends talk about how wonderful their sex lives are and feel pressured to pretend that mine was great too.
Ryan and I have been together for nearly 3 years and he’s always been very loving and supportive, trying everything to make sure that have as much pleasure as possible. He came nearly every time we had sex while I was lucky to climax once a month.
Then things got even worst. No matter what positions we tried or for how long, Ryan couldn’t come either. I felt like it was my fault and that he had lost interest in having a girlfriend who’s broken. Ryan felt emasculated and like he was letting me down by making me feel unattractive.
We went online to try and find a sex therapist that might be able to help. That’s when we called James. He has been absolutely fantastic!! He’s helped us to work through the buried issues that were causing our problems. We saw him for individual and couples sessions by webcam and what really helped was that he understood exactly what we were going through and had a very practical way of helping us deal with the issues.
We just got engaged!!! We’re madly in love, our relationship is going really well, and we’re having the best sex of our lives.
Thank you James!”
Sarah & Ryan, Cambridge, UK
Concern: Painful Sex
“My husband and I have been together for 5 years. 2 years ago, out of the blue, I suddenly started having excruciating pain every time we tried to have sex. My GP wasn’t much help at all.
A friend who went through something similar told me about James and I decided to contact him. At first I thought it might be awkward talking about private things with a male, but I felt right at ease from the beginning.
James helped me to find out what the cause was by referring me to a brilliant doctor. While I was having the treatment I continue seeing him for therapy to deal with all the issues that this caused over time. My husband saw him too and we worked through a lot together.
Our sex life is better now than it was before the pain started. We make love often and we’re truly as close as we’ve ever been.
I can’t recommend him highly enough.
Thanks!”
Deborah, Manchester
Concern: Low Libido / Low Sex Drive
“About a year ago, I started noticing that I wasn’t really interested in sex anymore. My partner still made regular advances but I began finding excuses to avoid sex. Masturbation didn’t really appeal anymore either and my general sense of wellbeing began to suffer.
I thought I might just be getting older, but I noticed that I began feeling guilty, unattractive, and that my energy levels were going down. I didn’t understand what was going on. The rest of my life was fine and before now we had sex almost every day.
The last straw happened when I realised that I was tempted to lie to avoid sex. I found James’ website and called him. That was the best decision I ever made!! We worked through some issues from the past that were holding me back and he helped me to figure out some things I never realised would affect me this much. My therapy also took a different course and he helped me to work through a lot of anxiety that I had around my body and socialising in general.
It’s 5 months on and I’ve never been this happy. Our sex live is fantastic and I wake up every day looking forward to life. I’ll still have a session every month or two just to talk through any new stuff, but now counselling is something I look forward to.
Thanks James. You’re a lifesaver!!!
Jordan, Edinburgh, UK
Concern: Hyper Libido
“Since I was in my teens, I always had a higher sex drive than other guys I knew. Back then it was great, but as I got older it became more difficult to focus on work and other stuff I enjoyed. My mind would drift to sex 8-10 times a day and sometimes I would get so horny that I couldn’t concentrate at all.
I met the most amazing partner last year and we’ve been going out since. The problem is that no matter how often we have sex, I still can’t seem to prioritise other things for too long before my mind goes back there. I eventually thought that I was addicted to sex, which is when I contacted James.
I’m so glad I did that. He helped me understand the difference between having a hyper libido and sex addiction, and that in my case I had a hyper libido. We did some blood tests to check but I didn’t have anything physically wrong. That was a great relief and helped me to concentrate on the counselling.
We talked through some stuff from my past that I’ve been holding on to. We also talked a lot about feelings of guilt and control. James helped me to learn new ways to control and calm my mind and how to deal with feelings of a really high libido.
With James’ help I finally feel like I’m at peace and have a lot more control over my mind. Life is brilliant! I get to enjoy a high libido and still focus on the things in my life that I love.
Thanks for everything James. You’re a rockstar!”
Matt, Brighton, UK
Concern: Igniting Passion / Intimacy
“After 6 years in our relationship, things began to get a little samey. Our sex life dried up and we started taking each other for granted. We let our daily and weekly routines get the better of us and we stopped feeling in love the way we used to.
A friend of mine was going through the same thing last year and they decided the answer was to have a baby instead. Turns out it was the worst idea ever. They’ve now separated and there’s a baby that’ll grow up in a broken home. The worst part is that I’m sure they still loved each other and could have worked it out.
We decided that won’t be our future. Geoff works away from home sometimes and I was looking for someone who did face-to-face and online counselling to make it possible to have couples therapy no matter where we were. We found James and called him to make an appointment.
That was the best decision we ever made in our relationship. It’s only been 4 months on but we’re going stronger than ever. Honestly, sex isn’t new anymore, but it’s better than it ever was. We’ve learned to be vulnerable with each other and have full access to our feelings. Most of all, we trust each other more deeply than we ever did.
James showed us how to live with a focus on the present, while we’re secure in our future. I can’t recommend him highly enough!”
Jenn & Geoff, London, UK
Concern: Performance Anxiety
“After several years of casual relationships and a fair bit of sexual experience, I suddenly got stumped with performance anxiety.
I became interested in someone I worked with. After our second date we went back to his place and starting making out passionately. My heart was racing and I couldn’t believe this was finally happening. But then, for the first time ever, I came almost as soon as we began.
The night was basically ruined and I left as soon as I could get dressed, probably apologising 10 times in the process.
I finally scraped up the courage and we had another date, but the same thing happened and I was mortified.
I decided to talk to a sexologist because I couldn’t figure out what was going on. James was awesome. He assured me that this happened all the time and that I wasn’t alone.
We talked about my past social and sexual relationships and I began realising that what I was really afraid of was commitment. The person I was interested in was really the first time I actually fell in love, and because of growing up in a broken home, I was scared at a deeper level of getting hurt.
James helped me to work through those issues and we also talked about a whole bunch of practical techniques to help me become more confident. We also talked about ways for me to communicate how I felt and what happened to my date, and thankfully, he was really understanding.
He and I are now a couple and going strong after 8 months. It’s my longest relationship so far and there’s no end in sight.
I’m so glad I got in touch with James and I can’t recommend him highly enough!”
Shaun, Oxford, UK
Concern: Sexual Self-Esteem
“The worst things in my house used to be my mirrors. I hated seeing myself and a voice inside my head would always criticise me every time I walked past one. I especially hated seeing myself naked.
Being single was so incredibly lonely. But I couldn’t face the idea of someone else seeing what I looked like naked, or worse, having sex. The better option was to stay single and just keep myself to myself.
About a year ago, an incredibly attractive guy at my gym started making eye contact and flirting with me. I thought he might just be desperate or friendly, but as the weeks rolled by, he kept chatting with me and eventually asked me out on a date.
At first I said no, but he wouldn’t give up and I did really want to go out with him.
Eventually I thought to myself that if he sees something in me, there must be something I’m missing. That’s when I decided to get some counselling to work on my self-esteem. I found James’ website and loved that I could do the sessions by webcam, so I contacte him.
11 months later (the therapy lasted about 2 months) and my gym admirer (now my lovely boyfriend) and me have a great relationship. The mirror still makes me a little nervous sometimes, but I mountains full of confidence that keep on growing. James helped me find my self-worth, and I learned how to continue adding to that over time. I don’t live in a shell anymore and I’m done hiding. He also helped me to figure out where my self-esteem issues began and knowing that made the world of difference.
If you feel like you’re not good enough or you’re worried what other people think of you all the time, get in touch with him. It’s worth it.”
Sam, London, UK
Concern: Sex Addiction
“When I contacted James at first, I was ashamed of my sexual behaviour and worried that sex would ruin my life. Everything revolved around the next orgasm. I consumed hours of porn every day. I flirted with every attractive woman that I got close to. I spent a fortune visiting strip clubs and sex workers. And I nearly ruined my marriage.
I tried anonymous sex addiction 12 step programs and I thought it worked, but after a few months I just fell back into feeling consumed by sex every day. Nothing worked.
Therapy took time and it definitely wasn’t easy. James helped me first to figure out that nothing was physically wrong with me. We got some blood tests and then he referred me to a great doctor who helped me check that nothing was physically wrong. At the same time we had more counselling sessions. He never made me feel ashamed. After a while I began feeling better and stronger and had the energy to really begin changing my life.
I thought it would just be more how-to guides on things I should avoid or how to control my mind. But it wasn’t like that at all. Even when the sessions were about deep or difficult topics, he always made it feel light and like change was possible. He helped me to understand the things in my past and subconscious mind that were causing me to behave this way. I learned A LOT about all kinds of compulsive behaviour and how to manage it. And he helped my wife and me to reconnect and work through a lot of the pain I caused her together.
It’s been almost a year since I last saw James and I wanted to write this so that anybody who ever feels like I did knows there’s hope. My life has been completely overturned for the better. Sometimes my urges still get a little out of hand, but I’m never out of control anymore. Sex has become something that I enjoy and use to share my life and love with. I don’t wake up anxious anymore and I get to focus on all the things in my life that matter to me, of which sex is now only one aspect.”
Leon, Windsor, UK