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Sexual Self-Esteem

How to Be Your Own Hero

On my homepage, there’s a quote that says: “If eyes are the windows to the soul, then sex is the lens through which we see purpose in ourselves.”

I believe that our sexuality is one of the main drivers that make us seek purpose in life, if not the main purpose. Whether we celebrate our love and relationships through sex, use it to start families, or whether it secures our bonds with our partners, sex is pivotal in the happiness of every human being.

On one hand, society today seems so open, but on the other, sexual conservatism is still rife everywhere. What that really ends up doing, is making us feel like we need to be sexually perfect, in a world where we can’t ask for advice, find out what’s normal, or talk about sexual issues. We’d easily say to a friend that we had a headache or stomach flu. But how often does someone tell you that they couldn’t orgasm or stay erect last night?

Plastic surgeons have been profiting from our insecurities. Breast augmentations, penis enlargements, labiaplasties, and the list continues. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look our best. It’s healthy. But the problem is that more often than not, we end up making decisions based on unrealistic expectations that the media has been blasting at us.

Causes of Low Sexual Self-Esteem include performance anxiety, body dysmorphia, depression, pornography, disabilities, past illnesses, bad sexual experiences, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, libido disorders, general self-esteem issues, and a host of others.

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Like Performance Anxiety, Sexual Self-Esteem issues can always be treated effectively. The key is accurately identifying the underlying reasons that are causing your fears, and skilled counselling to deal with those reasons and anxieties.

In truth, the underlying reasons that hold us back, hide and disguise themselves all too well. I’ve helped many clients heal from a Low Sexual Self-Esteem that stemmed from an array of causes. Counselling duration depends on the underlying cause, but you’ll usually be able to see a massive improvement in 10 – 12 sessions.

Whether there’s something beneath the surface that’s holding you back, or whether you worry that you’re not normal or sexually desirable, please don’t hesitate to contact me.

Alternatively, please feel free to schedule a Free Initial Consultation to discuss how I can be of assistance to you.

Client Feedback:

“The worst things in my house used to be my mirrors. I hated seeing myself and a voice inside my head would always criticise me every time I walked past one. I especially hated seeing myself naked.

Being single was so incredibly lonely. But I couldn’t face the idea of someone else seeing what I looked like naked, or worse, having sex. The better option was to stay single and just keep myself to myself.

About a year ago, an incredibly attractive guy at my gym started making eye contact and flirting with me. I thought he might just be desperate or friendly, but as the weeks rolled by, he kept chatting with me and eventually asked me out on a date.

At first I said no, but he wouldn’t give up and I did really want to go out with him.

Eventually I thought to myself that if he sees something in me, there must be something I’m missing. That’s when I decided to get some counselling to work on my self-esteem. I found James’ website and loved that I could do the sessions by webcam, so I contacte him.

11 months later (the therapy lasted about 2 months) and my gym admirer (now my lovely boyfriend) and me have a great relationship. The mirror still makes me a little nervous sometimes, but I mountains full of confidence that keep on growing. James helped me find my self-worth, and I learned how to continue adding to that over time. I don’t live in a shell anymore and I’m done hiding. He also helped me to figure out where my self-esteem issues began and knowing that made the world of difference.

If you feel like you’re not good enough or you’re worried what other people think of you all the time, get in touch with him. It’s worth it.”