Online Sex Therapy - Have the Sex You Want
Professional Counselling for Relationships, Sex, Mental Wellness, and Life Goals
Online Sex Therapy - Have the Sex You Want
Professional Counselling for Relationships, Sex, Mental Wellness, and Life Goals
Welcome and thank you for visiting.
My name is chetan pradeep bhagat, and I’m a trained psychotherapist and sexologist. My clients hail from every sexual orientation, gender identity, and relationship configuration.
In my 17 years of sex therapy practice, I have found that we reach emotional fulfillment only when we balance our relationships, our sexuality, our mental wellness, and our goals. When we are able to coordinate these four dimensions of life, we gain harmony and purpose. Our expression and enjoyment of sex are especially important: overall happiness often starts with lasting pleasure in the bedroom.
Yet in our digital world, our emotional and sexual well-being are under constant assault. Bosses, parents, and friends expect instant access and replies, even when we struggle to stay true to ourselves and to our partners. Society demands that we fit our relationships and partners into fewer and fewer hours, and we are knocked out of balance as love and self-care bow to money and time.
Counselling brings a return to a more balanced self, a journey to address existing concerns and challenges, and to create sustainable happiness.
Together, you and I (and your partner(s)) can step forward—into a future where you can love freely, have more and better sex, heal, and prosper.
Online Sex Therapy
Easy access to therapy by video, phone, chat or email. No travelling or awkward moments in waiting rooms.
Affordable Fees
Affordable rates with discounts for pre-payment.
Trusted Care
Trusted Psychosexual therapy with Practical Advice Minus the Psycho-babble.
Holistic Approach
All-round focus on Relationships, Sex, Mental Health, and Goal Coaching
Online Sex Therapy
Affordable
Fees
Trusted Care
Holistic Approach
If eyes are the windows to the soul, then sex is the lens through which we see purpose in ourselves.
Online Therapy. On your terms.
Online. Video. Phone. Text Chat. Email. Face-to-Face.
Online sex therapy by video, phone, chat, and email has enabled me to best serve my clients in ways that make a real difference. Counselling is now accessible in a more efficient, more convenient, and more private way than ever before. No travelling. No awkward waiting room moments. No uncomfortable settings. No wasted time.
Whether for yourself, a partner, or group of partners, online psychosexual therapy will ensure you get the support you need as soon and as effectively as possible.
Webcam counselling is my preferred method of working. My clients find that this method is most effective and convenient. I use a secure web meeting platform that is free and easy to access on your PC, Mac, Android, or iOS device. In our first session together I’ll show you how to set things up at no charge.
You may sometimes find yourself in a place or time where access to a webcam or smartphone is limited. Some clients find that initially discussing more sensitive topics by phone works better for them. Others have have accessibility requirements that limit them from video or keyboard use. Therapy by phone is extremely effective and I’ll ensure that you always feel safe and welcome to speak freely.
Online chat platforms have evolved greatly and now offer 100% secure and private tools for us to use in counselling. Alternatively, this can be a great option if you have any hearing difficulties or simply prefer to use messaging services to communicate.
It can be very beneficial to use email as a counselling tool, either as a stand-alone option, or in addition to other methods of communication. Many of my clients who prefer counselling by email report that they enjoy the additional time to think about their responses, as well as to have a written reply to refer back to. I don’t charge to read emails. You will only pay the minimum of either the time in minutes it takes to respond or the capped cost of a 50-minute session in case it takes longer than 50 minutes.
Couples therapy can be a nightmare in terms of scheduling group sessions. Counselling Online (especially for long-distance relationships) eases this challenge and enables us to find convenient slots that work for everyone. Whether by webcam, phone, chat, or email, I have great tools and methods that we can set up in minutes to get started quickly.
Online Therapy. On your terms.
Online. Video. Phone. Text Chat. Email. Face-to-Face.
Whether for yourself, a partner, or group of partners, online psychosexual therapy will ensure you get the support you need as soon and as effectively as possible.
No travelling. No awkward waiting room moments. No uncomfortable settings. No wasted time.
Webcam counselling is my preferred method of working. My clients find that this method is most effective and convenient. I use a secure web meeting platform that is free and easy to access on your PC, Mac, Android, or iOS device. In our first session together I’ll show you how to set things up at no charge.
You may sometimes find yourself in a place or time where access to a webcam or smartphone is limited. Some clients find that initially discussing more sensitive topics by phone works better for them. Others have have accessibility requirements that limit them from video or keyboard use. Therapy by phone is extremely effective and I’ll ensure that you always feel safe and welcome to speak freely.
Online chat platforms have evolved greatly and now offer 100% secure and private tools for us to use in counselling. Alternatively, this can be a great option if you have any hearing difficulties or simply prefer to use messaging services to communicate.
It can be very beneficial to use email as a counselling tool, either as a stand-alone option, or in addition to other methods of communication. Many of my clients who prefer counselling by email report that they enjoy the additional time to think about their responses, as well as to have a written reply to refer back to. I don’t charge to read emails. You will only pay the minimum of either the time in minutes it takes to respond or the capped cost of a 50-minute session in case it takes longer than 50 minutes.
Couples therapy can be a nightmare in terms of scheduling group sessions. Counselling Online (especially for long-distance relationships) eases this challenge and enables us to find convenient slots that work for everyone. Whether by webcam, phone, chat, or email, I have great tools and methods that we can set up in minutes to get started quickly.
Is sex or libido causing you anxiety, stress, or loneliness?
Schedule Your Free Telephone Consultation or contact me on +44 7986 948 123 if you have any questions
Online Sex Therapy
Pragmatic Treatment Plans - Select one to learn more
Online Sex Therapy
Pragmatic Treatment Plans - Select one to learn more
Couples
Counselling
Rekindle love and heal from open wounds through the power of psychosexual therapy.
Couples
Counselling
Rekindle love and heal from open wounds through the power of psychosexual therapy.
Erectile
Dysfunction
Erectile Dysfunction can always be treated. Discover how Sex Therapy can help you.
Erectile
Dysfunction
Erectile Dysfunction can always be treated. Discover how Sex Therapy can help you.
Premature
Ejaculation
Conquer anxiety & learn premature ejaculation through psychosexual therapy.
Premature
Ejaculation
Conquer anxiety & learn to control premature ejaculation through psychosexual therapy.
Porn
Addiction
Heal from porn saturation. Renew your sensitivity and reset your sexual fantasies.
Porn
Addiction
Heal from pornography saturation. Renew your sensitivity and reset your sexual fantasies.
Desire
Differences
Learn to navigate libido differences in your relationship. Rediscover intimacy and passion.
Desire
Differences
Learn to navigate libido differences in your relationship. Rediscover intimacy and passion.
Difficulty Orgasming /
Anorgasmia
Reduce pressure & remove anxiety. Master orgasmic pleasure with Online Sex Therapy.
Difficulty Orgasming /
Anorgasmia
Reduce pressure & remove anxiety. Master orgasmic pleasure with Online Sex Therapy.
Painful Sex
Overcome trauma, prevent painful sex, and enjoy passion and intimacy with confidence.
Painful Sex
Overcome trauma, prevent painful sex, and enjoy passion and intimacy with confidence.
Low Sex Drive /
Low Libido
Rekindle desire and supercharge your sex drive. Experience sex as it's meant to be.
Low Sex Drive /
Low Libido
Rekindle desire and supercharge your sex drive. Experience sex as it's meant to be.
Hyper Sex Drive /
Hyper Libido
Learn to master an elevated libido. Tame the dragon and find balance in your sex life.
Hyper Sex Drive /
Hyper Libido
Learn to master an elevated libido. Tame the dragon and find balance in your sex life.
Igniting Passion /
Intimacy
Rekindle desire and turn old embers to new fires. Celebrate love with passion and intimacy.
Igniting Passion /
Intimacy
Rekindle desire and turn old embers to new fires. Celebrate love with passion and intimacy.
Sexual
Orientation
Take ownership and live with pride. Sex Therapy can help you find the peace and clarity to prosper.
Sexual
Orientation
Take ownership and live with pride. Sex Therapy can help you find the peace and clarity to prosper.
BDSM / Kink /
Alt Sex
Explore consensual bliss and dare to be different. Explore your kink and fetishes with confidence.
BDSM / Kink /
Alt Sex
Explore consensual bliss and dare to be different. Explore your kink and fetishes with confidence.
Performance
Anxiety
Gather the experience and knowledge to overcome performance anxiety. Permanently.
Performance
Anxiety
Gather the experience and knowledge to overcome performance anxiety. Permanently.
Sexual
Self-Esteem
Build confidence in yourself and find peace from fear and anxiety with Online Sex Therapy.
Sexual
Self-Esteem
Build confidence in yourself and find peace from fear and anxiety with Online Sex Therapy.
Sex Addiction
Break free from the shackles of sex addiction. Find new meaning in passion and intimacy.
Sex Addiction
Break free from the shackles of sex addiction. Find new meaning in passion and intimacy.
Sex Work
Enjoy sex-positive Online Psychosexual Therapy with understanding and without bias.
Sex Work
Enjoy sex-positive Online Psychosexual Therapy with understanding and without bias.
Sexual Abuse /
Trauma
Online Psychosexual Therapy provides the perfect safe space to heal from the trauma of abuse.
Sexual Abuse /
Trauma
Online Psychosexual Therapy provides the perfect safe space to heal from the trauma of abuse.
Sex and
Disabilities
Conquer the challenges of sex and disabilities. Overcome societal bias and celebrate passion.
Sex and
Disabilities
Conquer the challenges of sex and disabilities. Overcome societal bias and celebrate passion.
Sex and
Cancer / Illness
Don't allow illness to rob you of passion and intimacy. Renew the bond of sex and passion.
Sex and
Cancer / Illness
Don't allow illness to rob you of passion and intimacy. Renew the bond of sex and passion.
Sex and Ageing
Experience the joys of sex, passion, and intimacy beyond middle age without inhibition.
Sex and Ageing
Experience the joys of sex, passion, and intimacy beyond middle age without inhibition.
Repair Low Self-Esteem. Address Dating Issues. Overcome Shyness. Eliminate Inexperience
Schedule a Free Telephone Consultation or contact me on +44 7986 948 123 if you have any questions
How I work
A Proven Pathway to Success
Free Phone Consultation
During our first free 30-minute phone call, we’ll focus on finding out precisely what you’d like to achieve in therapy. I’ll share more information about myself and about what you can expect through our journey together. We’ll also discuss fees and make payment arrangements that work best for you.
History and Context
We’ll schedule a 100-minute onboarding session for you to share your journey and background. It’s extremely important that I understand the context of your concerns and goals.
Plan and Structure
We’ll work together to formulate a practical therapy plan for our counselling sessions. We’ll also discuss how long the duration of the therapy process is likely to be.
Counselling Process
Depending on the concerns you’d like to address, the counselling process typically takes 12 – 16 sessions, but may differ depending on your needs. During this time we’ll explore the obstacles you’d like to overcome and work towards the goals you’d like to achieve.
Refine and Debrief
At the end of the counselling process, we’ll review the work we’ve done and the progress you’ve made. We’ll revisit any outstanding issues and discuss methods to ensure that your success remains in place.
Follow-up
3 – 6 months following the conclusion of your therapy, we’ll schedule a follow-up session to make sure that everything has been going well. We’ll take this opportunity to discuss any new concerns you might have or conclude our work together.
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Why Sex Therapy?
Sexuality - Our most fundamental building block
When sex works, it is like the unseen lubricant in a well-oiled machine. But when it becomes dysfunctional, sex will almost certainly cause misery, obsession, and even ruin lives.
Sex therapists are traditionally trained to focus on helping a couple rekindle their romance in the blind hope that the bedroom will sort itself out as a result. In my experience, however, that hardly ever works.
Of course, we’re all unique, but the reality is that many couples have great relationships, yet their sex lives are in tatters; others have great sex but can no longer communicate; yet others remain single, eternally searching and yearning for the passion of another’s touch.
Society has caused us to be always afraid—afraid to state our needs, afraid to share our fantasies, to challenge the definitions of what is ‘normal’, of monogamy, marriage, kink, sexual orientation, gender roles, and taboos.
Many of us live in shame. Many more have experienced unimaginable pain from disabilities, illness, or sexual trauma. We end up feeling pressured to wear masks that seem perfect on the outside, no matter how much we hurt on the inside.
We dare not tell our friends that we’ve had trouble getting erect, that we find it difficult to orgasm, that we fantasise about sex with strangers, or that we hardly touch our partners anymore.
Google doesn’t have the answers—you do. The truth is that finding what is right for you can be a scary and lonely task. It takes a lot of courage. Removing false facts and incorrect beliefs requires objectivity, and that is something often lost when we’re in pain.
Counselling and sex therapy can serve to provide a guiding light through a maze of uncertainty. You’ll have access to the practical tools you need to arrive at a destination where you can be yourself—individual, happy, and proud.
About me
Welcome and thank you for visiting.
I’m chetan, a psychosexual therapist specialising in, and inspired by all aspects of human sexuality and connection.
In 15 years as a psychotherapist, I’ve helped individuals and couples hailing from every walk of life, sexual orientation, relationship configuration, and gender identity. Whether overcoming anxiety and depression or finding renewed sexual fulfilment, my work has allowed me to empower my clients across a wide array of psychological and sexual challenges.
My approach is pragmatic and includes not only questions to you, but also assistance in forming an achievable and practical plan—one that can be accomplished across a realistic space of time.
I offer advice and support based on my training and experience, both in professional practice and my own life. I work from the foundation of sound psychological models, but I eliminate the psycho-babble. I utilise a combination of strategies and personality theories that we will customise around what works best for you as a unique individual.
I never judge. The language we use will be whatever makes it most natural for you to express your feelings and concerns.
Most of all, I know that you contacted me because you need to feel better soon. My goal is to help you reach the happiness you want.
Feel free to book your Free Phone Consultation or to call/text me if you have any questions.
chetanbhagat
M (Psych) PGDip (CBT)
About me
Welcome and thank you for visiting.
I’m chetan, a psychosexual therapist specialising in, and inspired by all aspects of human sexuality and connection.
In 15 years as a psychotherapist, I’ve helped individuals and couples hailing from every walk of life, sexual orientation, relationship configuration, and gender identity. Whether overcoming anxiety and depression or finding renewed sexual fulfilment, my work has allowed me to empower my clients across a wide array of psychological and sexual challenges.
My approach is pragmatic and includes not only questions to you, but also assistance in forming an achievable and practical plan—one that can be accomplished across a realistic space of time.
I offer advice and support based on my training and experience, both in professional practice and my own life. I work from the foundation of sound psychological models, but I eliminate the psycho-babble. I utilise a combination of strategies and personality theories that we will customise around what works best for you as a unique individual. I never judge. The language we use will be whatever makes it most natural for you to express your feelings and concerns.
Most of all, I know that you contacted me because you need to feel better soon. My goal is to help you reach the happiness you want.
Feel free to book your Free Telephone Consultation or to call/text me if you have any questions.
chetan bhagat
M (Psych) PGDip (CBT)
Testimonials
Client feedback
Concern: Sexual Orientation
“I used to tell myself that the feelings I had towards other guys had nothing to do with attraction and was more because of how they looked. I thought that I was comparing my body with theirs. But that didn’t really explain the magazines I’d buy or the websites that I’d browse ‘on accident’.
There was a short time in my teens when I thought I might be bisexual but I didn’t have anybody to talk to and I was sure my parents would throw me out if they ever found out. I’ve since repressed it and told myself it was just a phase.
I’m 28 now and even though my best friends have always been girls, I’ve never been able to stay in a relationship with one for longer than a month. The only time I had sex went very wrong and I thought that I was just doomed and bad in bed.
On the outside my life was great. I have a good job and great career prospects, lots of friends, and I’m physically healthy. Inside I felt empty and like I was living a lie. I found LSHP online.
I was so ashamed and scared of seeing someone, but it really helped a lot to be able to have the therapy online. I’m still working through a lot of pain from the past, but the last 3 months in therapy have been a godsend. He has helped me so much. I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m gay and only just realised that I’ve actually been homophobic towards myself all this time.
chetan wasn’t pushy at all. His questions and advice always meant that I was in control and free to make up my own mind. That’s just the thing – I realised for the first time that it wasn’t about choosing to be a certain way but that this whole time I was trying to choose to be someone I’m not!
I’ve since come out to my parents and friends and through everyone’s acceptance have also begun learning to accept myself.
If you need someone to help you through issues who really actively listens and who can actually help, contact him. I’m finally beginning to feel proud of who I am and I’m beginning to feel like my life has purpose and depth for the first time.”
Jason, Bath, UK
Concern: Erectile Dysfunction
“It took me a week to build up the courage to text chetan the first time. I felt ashamed for not being able to keep an erection and I didn’t know how I would survive telling that to another man.
The medications my doctor prescribed me weren’t helping. I decided that I had to do something because the idea of living like this forever was much worst than whatever shame I had to live through in treatment. I was literally shaking when I called but after we chatted for a while I felt like I was safe and respected.
He listened carefully to everything I had to say and in the end said “We WILL fix this together”. His confidence and reassurance helped a great deal to relax me.
I’ve never had such thorough care before. He didn’t make any assumptions. He took a full medical and personal history and arranged for me to get the tests I needed to rule any medical problems out. He helped me to understand that even if a medical issue was the cause, psychological damage happens as a result and needs to be worked on alongside any medical issues.
In my case I didn’t have any medical causes and over the 15 sessions we had together he helped me to get my confidence (and erections) back. I’m no longer single and my sex life has never been this great! I can’t recommend chetan highly enough.”
Peter, Bournemouth, UK
Concern: Porn Addiction
“I was extremely nervous when I contacted chetan. It was very embarrassing to explain that I had a problem with porn addiction and that my relationship with my partner was on the rocks because of it.
chetan immediately set my mind at ease. His voice and manner immediately welcomed and calmed me. I didn’t feel judged at all and learned that my problem was actually far more common than I realised.
His approach is very practical. I had 14 sessions in total and all of them contained practical tasks that I had to complete or think about before the next session.
By the end of my sessions I was back in control of my life again and I felt free for the first time in years.
Now that I’m ready, we’re seeing chetan for couples therapy and things are going REALLY well. We haven’t been this happy since we met and this time we know how to make it last.”
G & S, Wandsworth, UK
Concern: Differences in Desire
“Before Adam and I reached out to chetan, we were headed straight for divorce. We’d been married for 7 years and things were going great… until recently.
Adam and I both had very active libidos. But recently his began fading. He often felt depressed for seemingly no reason. We hardly ever made love anymore and every tiny trigger turned into an argument.
I was feeling anxious all the time and my sexual frustration was unbearable. We love each other very much. But the more I felt like he was avoiding me the more he felt pushed and pressured.
I eventually began thinking that it was me that he’d lost interest in. I ended up questioning myself and feeling unattractive all the time. We tried seeing another sex therapist but that didn’t work out. We also tried a couples therapist but we ended up arguing even more.
It turns out that we needed someone who had experience of working with anxiety, depression and self esteem, together with being an experienced sex AND couples therapist.
chetan’ knowledge, wisdom, and calm has helped us to avoid breaking up the most beautiful thing that ever happened to us. The result is a relationship where we not only have red hot sex but also truly understand each other and care for each other’s needs for the first time.”
Lisa & Adam, Kent, UK
Concern: Difficulty Orgasming
“I’ve always struggled having orgasms since I began masturbating. I’d listen to all my girlfriends talk about how wonderful their sex lives are and feel pressured to pretend that mine was great too.
Ryan and I have been together for nearly 3 years and he’s always been very loving and supportive, trying everything to make sure that have as much pleasure as possible. He came nearly every time we had sex while I was lucky to climax once a month. Then things got even worst. No matter what positions we tried or for how long, Ryan couldn’t come either. I felt like it was my fault and that he had lost interest in having a girlfriend who’s broken. Ryan felt emasculated and like he was letting me down by making me feel unattractive.
We went online to try and find a sex therapist that might be able to help. That’s when we called chetan. He has been absolutely fantastic!! He’s helped us to work through the buried issues that were causing our problems. We saw him for individual and couples sessions by webcam and what really helped was that he understood exactly what we were going through and had a very practical way of helping us deal with the issues.
We just got engaged!!! We’re madly in love, our relationship is going really well, and we’re having the best sex of our lives. Thank you chetan !”
Sarah & Ryan, Cambridge, UK
Concern: Jealousy
“After 5 great years as partners, Charlie and I confessed that we both fantasised about having sex outside of our relationship.
We started dating in school and neither of us had any experience with anyone else up to that point. Our relationship was great, but we realised that we wanted to experience other people and what being with them would be like. The plan was to become more open to the idea of threesomes and to keep things just to sex.
What we didn’t bargain for was the amount of jealousy that we both felt at seeing someone else being ravished by our partner. We knew that we didn’t want to have sex with them alone and that we both wanted to feel the joys of a (slightly) open relationship, but we had no idea how to get past the jealousy. We both read several books on the topic and although some did help, nothing quite hit the mark.
We decided to contact chetan after a friend recommended him and we’re really glad that we did! There have been a lot of stuff that we needed to work through and a lot of things that we needed to figure out alone and together, but chetan helped us through and made sure that we always stayed close to each other.
We learned that jealousy will always be something that we need to deal with, but the difference is that we now know HOW and what to do when it strikes. We have never communicated this well and we are more in love than ever before.
We play together and sometimes with others and we’ve even learned how to turn feeling a little jealous sometimes into feeling a lot turned on. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”
Charlie & Dane, Manchester, UK
Rekindle desire, intimacy, curiosity, and sensuality in your life.
Schedule Your Free Telephone Consultation or contact me on +44 7986 948 123 if you have any questions
Affordable Care
Payment options to suit your needs
I believe that skilled therapy should be available to everyone. Together we’ll agree a therapy plan that will align with your budget and work to maximise your goals.
I usually advise that we have 2 -3 sessions per month. You may choose to have more, or less sessions, but I find that this frequency works well towards achieving client goals.
In order to enhance the benefits in the case of relationship therapy, couples sessions should ideally be 100 minutes long. However, I’ll be guided by your individual requirements.
- Prepaid
- Pay Per Session
Prepaid Discounts
Prepaid Discounts
Prepaid blocks of 4 sessions
30-Minute Introductory Session - Free
4 x 50-Minute Sessions - £108 each
Frequency - Usually 2-3 sessions per month
or contact me on +44 7986 948 123
Pay Per Session
Pay Per Session
Single Session Bookings
25-Minute Introductory Session - Free
50-Minute Session - £149
or contact me on +44 7986 948 123
Affordable Care
Payment options to suit your needs
I believe that skilled therapy should be available to everyone. Together we’ll agree a therapy plan that will align with your budget and work to maximise your goals.
I usually advise that we have 2 -3 sessions per month. You may choose to have more, or less sessions, but I find that this frequency works well towards achieving client goals.
In order to enhance the benefits in the case of relationship therapy, couples sessions should ideally be 100 minutes long. However, I’ll be guided by your individual requirements.
- Prepaid
- Pay Per Session
Prepaid Discounts
Prepaid Discounts
Prepaid blocks of 4 sessions
30-Minute Introductory Session - Free
4 x 50-Minute Sessions - £108 each
Frequency - Usually 2-3 sessions per month
or contact me on +44 7986 948 123
Pay Per Session
Pay Per Session
Single Session Bookings
25-Minute Introductory Session - Free
50-Minute Session - £149
or contact me on +44 7986 948 123
Address challenges you're facing without fear of shame or judgement
Schedule Your Free Phone Consultation or contact me on +44 7986 948 123 if you have any questions
Frequently Asked Questions
F.A.Q.
Feel free to contact me if you have any further questions
The support I provide is delivered with a targeted and practical approach.
I pride myself in being able to quickly identify and isolate the specific issues that are causing you concern, and am able to address those quickly and efficiently.
Although the healing process should never be rushed, I remain guided by you in your own journey.
Sessions may also be staggered further apart fortnightly. In this way, the healing approach is extended without reducing any effectiveness, but affordability is increased to around £300 per month.
I do my best to be available outside of regular working hours to make therapy as accessible as possible for you. I do not increase my fees for peak-time/after-hours appointments.
Appointments are usually available:
Tuesday – Thursday: 15:00 – 22:00 (23:30 finish)
Saturday / Sunday / Bank Holidays: Available on request for emergencies
You may Schedule Your Free Phone Consultation here.
Due to the privacy concerns of my clients, I work online, by phone, or by email only.
I understand that scheduling doesn’t always work out. If you might not be able to make an appointment, please let me know as soon as possible so that we can reschedule a more convenient time.
A psychiatrist is a person who trained as a medical doctor and specialised in psychiatry. That generally means that they specialise in the prescription of medication and hospitalisation of patients.
A psychotherapist is a talking therapist and will focus on practical ways to understand your context and circumstances, and help you work through issues with new ways of thinking and understanding. Psychotherapists will also help you evaluate your emotions and gain much greater control over the type and extent of the emotions that you’re feeling. Psychotherapists specialise in the practical application of improving thinking and emotional mechanisms through the use of carefully considered questions.
A psychosexual therapist (aka sex therapist or sexologist) is an experienced talking therapist who also studies issues that surround gender, sex, and sexuality. We aim to understand the psychological impacts of sex, orientation, gender, and any surrounding challenges. The goal of a psychosexual therapist will be to help you enrich not only your life in general but also to find balance and happiness in the relationship and sexual dimensions of your life.
We live in a world where we’re always expected to perform at peak capacity. How many times have you been on Facebook or Instagram and seen seemingly perfect photos of seemingly perfect lives? We’ve all been tempted to show off just a little to make it seem like things are just that tad more colourful than they actually are.
We’re ‘supposed’ to be a lot of things—’supposed’ to be always-attractive, financially flush, sexually desired, romantically elevated, and professionally successful. Above all, we’re ‘supposed’ to be so independent that we shouldn’t be seen taking advice or counsel, lest we are judged by our peers from the glasshouses of ‘likes’, ‘comments’, and hashtags. But what happens when Humpty goes smackdown?
I often hear clients say that they weren’t sure whether to seek support because ‘couples should fix relationships between themselves’. If you’re single and lonely, it’s because there’s something wrong with you, isn’t there? Partner unfaithful? Leave, or suck it up. Painful sex? Have a tablet. Erectile dysfunction? Have a tablet. Depressed? Apparently, everybody should be on anti-depressants. Quick fixes for a slow meltdown.
It’s quite understandable to anyone should you need to see an accountant to mull over your taxes or a doctor for a broken leg. But who do you see for a broken heart? And what happens when you can’t ‘shake off’ low moods with a jog and a cup of tea? How much stress should you really handle, and at what point does that glass of wine become self-prescribed support against anxiety?
The idea that medical issues are acceptably treated by doctors, but psychological or relationship problems should be dealt with in private silence should be removed from society. I don’t know any couple who got into pregnancy themselves and say “we’ll deal with delivery and birth ourselves too”. I hear time and time again that seeing as we can get ourselves into relationships and bad moods, we should deal with them in the same way. This is the insidious trap that clouds over anyone who tries to take their mental health seriously.
It is absolutely the case that a bad therapist will most certainly cause harm and havoc in the happiest of minds. But it is also undoubtedly true that a skilled counsellor will make all the difference between a fractured past and a bright future.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, in your heart, you know when you need help. The question isn’t whether, it’s how long you choose to wait to be happy again.
I am here to support you and/or your partner(s) through your journey to heightened happiness. Though I can’t provide a fixed amount of time, support for individuals usually concludes in 8-12 x 50-minute sessions. Couples sessions usually take a little longer, depending on the number of partners and circumstances, and averages around 10-15 x 50-minute sessions.
I will only advise that we conclude our work when you are in agreement and when I’m sure that the changes we’ve made will persist.
If, for any reason, we need to extend and you’re worried about affordability, please let me know, and I’ll do my best to work with you to keep it affordable.
In order to achieve the best results, I recommend that we have a session at least once every two weeks. We can also customise your sessions around a different frequency should you wish to have them more regularly.
John Donne said, “No man is an island”.
Nor is any emotion or human connection. In our work to focus on the specific issues you’d like to address, it’s inevitable that other connected problems will present themselves. Some obstacles are simpler to deconstruct, while others require a little more elbow grease.
It’s best to focus on the topics and feelings that seem most pertinent to you at the time in the context of our conversations. How the issues are connected within your own mind and how we address them will form the basis of your road to achieving your goals. In the event of couples therapy, we’ll have both individual and couple sessions to make sure the support is balanced, impartial, and useful.
I work across four primary areas: couples therapy, sex therapy, talking therapy, and coaching. Rather than viewing these as different areas, I prefer to see the person as a whole that is more than the sum of these parts. Your goals will likely fall more specifically in one of these areas, but to achieve them, we can comfortably navigate the others as we need to.
If I feel your issue at hand might be better supported elsewhere, I’ll discuss this with you and point you towards other potential resources.
In my practice, I focus on four aspects of counselling:
* Couples/Relationship Counselling
* Sex Therapy
* Talking therapy
* Coaching
My approach is pragmatic and includes not only questions directed at you, but also assistance in forming an achievable and practical plan—one that can be accomplished across a realistic space of time. I offer support based on my experience, both from work and my own life. I eliminate the psycho-babble. I also utilise a combination of strategies we will customise around what works best for you as a unique individual.
My goal is to help you achieve rewarding relationships, fulfilling sex, balanced thinking and emotions, and to achieve the goals you set in your life.
The terms I use are descriptively neutral. I encourage you to use terms that you find not only comfortable, but also most descriptive of your thoughts and feelings.
The short answer is ‘Yes, Absolutely’.
I will never judge or ridicule. I believe that our humanity is our greatest asset, that love is our greatest gift, and that our sexuality is our greatest celebration. I’m neither afraid nor ashamed of this belief, and my goal is to help you reach a place of pride and happiness, as you define it.
The quasi-distance of video/phone/chat/email therapy, along with the added privacy of being able to do it from the safety of your home (or another safe space) are two very significant reasons that many clients prefer online therapy.
My preference is always to work via video calls, but we can customise your therapy to your exact needs. If you’d prefer phone calls, text chat, or emails instead, they are all effective and suitable for our purposes.
Absolutely. My clients hail from every gender identity and sexual orientation. I have extensive experience counselling LGBTQIA+ individuals and couples, and identify as part of the community myself. Clients from all gender identities, sexual orientations, and relationship configurations are welcome and respected.
I will not divulge your information unless required by law in the form of a court order.
In all other cases, your identity and payment information are kept in confidence.
When speaking with you, I will always be in a secure space outside the sight or earshot of anyone else. Please note that texts and emails are NOT considered secure methods of communication.
After our initial history session, I might suggest that you (and/or your partner(s)) may want to seek the assistance of a medical professional.
Please note that I am not a medical doctor or licensed clinical psychologist and cannot make any diagnosis for clinical use, or provide clinical therapy. Should you experience any concerns in which you require medical, psychiatric, or immediate care, please reach out to your family doctor, psychiatrist, or Emergency Room.
I don’t necessarily need to see partners as part of therapy.
Many of my clients are single. Others are in relationships but require individual counselling. Yet others don’t think their partners would be willing to join them in therapy. I would always recommend that all partners in a relationship attend couples therapy together, but if that isn’t possible, we can still do a lot of work individually.
Where only one partner embarks on the counselling journey without the cooperation of the other(s), it’s my experience that it’s almost always the case that the effects of therapy on the individual person are so positive that the other partner(s) eventually joins spontaneously.
Misery doesn’t love company. Happiness does.
Nobody can (or should) be ‘made to go’ to therapy. One is ready when you’re ready, and you’ll know in your heart when that is.
Should your partner(s) not be ready or willing to join you in therapy doesn’t at all mean that you can’t reap the benefits. In my experience, it’s almost always the case that the positive effects of therapy on the individual are so significant, that their partner(s) eventually join spontaneously.
Because I see most of my clients online via webcam, therapy is available to you wherever you have a private space that has an internet connection.
In order to assist clients with hearing or sight difficulties, I provide options for therapy via text chat or telephone calls, respectively.
Please let me know of any accessibility requirements you have, and I’ll do my best to assist.
Yes. I will not divulge your information unless required by law in the form of a court order.
In all other cases, your identity and payment information are kept in confidence.
If you feel that you require talking therapy, please feel free to contact me directly.
I do however recommend that your family doctor is always included in your full health overview, including talking therapy.